read these tips on how Du can ruin a datum so Du can avoid ruining one in the future.
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things Von bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If Du really feel Du need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a Mehr specific statement like, "For the last week oder so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do Du see it?" Von staying low-key, Du may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears Du badmouth the way Du look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. Du could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! Du look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make Du feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related Fragen in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds Du attractive. oder that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to fisch for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious Fragen like, "Do Du like my hair this way?" oder "Does this dress look dumb?" oder "Do Du notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT dusche Du WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) Schauspielen LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If Du think guys notice girls who drink oder do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a bier in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind Du want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help Du figure out what Du find appealing about someone oder help Du to avoid making the same mistake twice. But Du don't need to fill your datum in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such Kommentare only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your datum started comparing Du to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when Du point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. oder cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
Du may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If Du find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, oder be Mehr popular, oder whatever), consider whether it could be Du who needs to change. Du may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your herz — and your relationship — good!
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things Von bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If Du really feel Du need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a Mehr specific statement like, "For the last week oder so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do Du see it?" Von staying low-key, Du may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears Du badmouth the way Du look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. Du could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! Du look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make Du feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related Fragen in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds Du attractive. oder that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to fisch for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious Fragen like, "Do Du like my hair this way?" oder "Does this dress look dumb?" oder "Do Du notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT dusche Du WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) Schauspielen LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If Du think guys notice girls who drink oder do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a bier in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind Du want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help Du figure out what Du find appealing about someone oder help Du to avoid making the same mistake twice. But Du don't need to fill your datum in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such Kommentare only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your datum started comparing Du to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when Du point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. oder cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
Du may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If Du find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, oder be Mehr popular, oder whatever), consider whether it could be Du who needs to change. Du may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your herz — and your relationship — good!
