Communication:
-Communication communication communication. Du need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, Du cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So Du need to be able to talk to them. Tell them Du are upset. With the distance, Du cannot behave like Du would in a local relationship, Du cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what Du are doing every Minute of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when Du do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so Du know when (about when) the Weiter visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. Du both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW Du will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if Du aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If Du are feeling doubt. Remember that Du Liebe them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the Liebe of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but Du need to.
Set datum Nights
-Talk about when Du will have dates. Even with the distance Du can have dates!
-Pick ONE Tag a week that no matter what, the two of Du can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, Du will know that Du will talk at least that one day. If for some reason Du cannot talk on datum day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, oder texts, oder emails, however works best for Du guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If Du Liebe them, why hide them?
-If Du keep your relationship secret, are Du ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless Du don’t Liebe them.
-If Du keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if Du are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to Bewegen where? How will Du end the distance? Du don’t need to end the distance right away, but If Du plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of Du plan on moving away, and Du never talked about it, Du both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. oder Du will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they Liebe you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, Du know Du will be upset with not doing what Du wanted. If Du end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If Du don’t think Du could ever leave your family, tell them that. If Du don’t want to travel, tell them, if Du want to wait longer before Du Bewegen tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the Weiter visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how Du feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your Friends don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not Home all the time, Du will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If Du have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair oder iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 oder higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, Du can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If Du don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype oder FaceTime, oovoo, Facebook has webcaming now, Google + has hangouts, etc.
-Communication communication communication. Du need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, Du cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So Du need to be able to talk to them. Tell them Du are upset. With the distance, Du cannot behave like Du would in a local relationship, Du cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what Du are doing every Minute of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when Du do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so Du know when (about when) the Weiter visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. Du both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW Du will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if Du aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If Du are feeling doubt. Remember that Du Liebe them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the Liebe of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but Du need to.
Set datum Nights
-Talk about when Du will have dates. Even with the distance Du can have dates!
-Pick ONE Tag a week that no matter what, the two of Du can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, Du will know that Du will talk at least that one day. If for some reason Du cannot talk on datum day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, oder texts, oder emails, however works best for Du guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If Du Liebe them, why hide them?
-If Du keep your relationship secret, are Du ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless Du don’t Liebe them.
-If Du keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if Du are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to Bewegen where? How will Du end the distance? Du don’t need to end the distance right away, but If Du plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of Du plan on moving away, and Du never talked about it, Du both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. oder Du will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they Liebe you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, Du know Du will be upset with not doing what Du wanted. If Du end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If Du don’t think Du could ever leave your family, tell them that. If Du don’t want to travel, tell them, if Du want to wait longer before Du Bewegen tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the Weiter visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how Du feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your Friends don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not Home all the time, Du will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If Du have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair oder iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 oder higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, Du can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If Du don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype oder FaceTime, oovoo, Facebook has webcaming now, Google + has hangouts, etc.
