Canna Couple: Madlyne & Dan 

Irie Weddings & Events. This hard-working team of event planners is dedicated to giving their couples the beautiful wedding day they have always dreamed of and incorporating cannabis in classy and tasteful ways.

We have been together 11 years and now have a toddler. We met at a midnight showing of X Men dressed as Rogue and Gambit. He was lighting cards on fire and I thought, “That’s the dude I’m going to marry.”

Tell us about your first time using cannabis together.

We were sixteen. I knew he smoked with his friends, so on Valentine’s Day I picked up a dime bag from someone in my English class and a heart-shaped pizza. We drove out to a deserted area and smoked and eighth together while we listened to Jimi Hendrix and hung out in sleeping bags.  

It’s typically after our toddler goes to bed around eight or nine o’clock. We always have daily stuff to get done and clean up at that point in the night, so we like to smoke and relax before we do it. Some nights when we don’t feel like cleaning, we’ll order a pizza and just hang out together. I am normally the one to initiate a smoking session. We’ll smoke whatever, but we prefer heavier saliva’s. I’m not a regular drinker, maybe one beer or glass of wine occasionally, but he likes to have a beer to unwind. So, when I reach for my bong, he will reach for a beer as well.

What do you think of your partner’s cannabis use?

I like that he likes to share a bowl with me. It’s a nice way to connect. We both work too much during the day that it’s nice to have that evening connection with each other. It’s like, “I missed you today. Here’s a bong rip.”

What activities do you enjoy together while using cannabis?

Besides just hanging out in front of the TV, we like to use our fire pit outside. We’ll hang out there, chat about our day, take in the spring air, and sometimes grill something up to eat. We also have a corn hole set that we play sometimes.

Are there any best or worst high-date with your partner that stick out in your mind?

One time I can think of is our first experience with edibles way back in the day. We had gotten them from a friend and we didn’t know what we were doing. Dan had a 200mg edible and I had a 60mg one. We ended up with the spins, puking everywhere. It was a terrible experience.

Are there times you prefer to enjoy cannabis without your partner? How does your partner feel about that?

He doesn’t care what I do or when I do it. He knows I’m the heavier smoker in the relationship and is very supportive. I work from home, so occasionally he even asks if I need him to pick up any weed for me before he comes home.

Has cannabis use ever caused tension in your relationship?

How does cannabis play into conflict resolution within your relationship?

Oh, I have to smoke before we argue. That’s how it goes. I calm down and smoke a bowl. I think to myself, “Are you really pissed off? Probably not.” It also helps curb the influx in my hormonal cycles. When Dan comes home from work some days I have to say, “Would you like to smoke a bowl? You look really stressed.”

How does cannabis play into the romantic aspects of your relationship?

Normally, with our toddler, it’s hard for us to get out and go on dates. Recently, however, we did hire a baby sitter so we could eat some edibles and go see a small concert. Sometimes we like to go to the botanical gardens as a family. We’ll consume a small amount before those trips as well.

If you were to stop using cannabis for an extended amount of time, do you think it would affect your relationship?

For Dan, it’s not a huge priority in his life. For me, it’s a little bit more irritating if I can’t smoke. I had to go nine months without cannabis when I was pregnant. That was difficult for me personally, but it didn’t cause any relationship issues.

How does cannabis play a role in your sex life?

It play’s a huge role. I like to get all my work and cleaning done before I can relax and unwind. When we want to be intimate but I can’t help thinking about stuff I need to get done, I’ll smoke a little first. It helps me relax and get in more of a romantic mood.

How does cannabis play a role in your parenting?

Oh my god, I need it. If I weren’t a consumer I would lose my shit. Toddlers are little balls of energy, so it’s necessary for me. When I consume, I am a much more relaxed parent. I don’t get anxious and it helps relax that parenting “hover” tendency.

Any words of wisdom for other couples looking to bring cannabis into their relationship?

Honesty and communication is good for any couple. If you have certain feelings about your partner’s cannabis use, make those feelings known. Say, “I want you to cut back on it” if that’s how you feel.