Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating Guter Rat is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to Mehr modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your kreis of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is Von dating outside your usual "type" oder group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that Du can't go out with a cute basketball player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical oder Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait Von the phone for him to call to ask Du out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his Facebook Wall, oder mention him on Twitter. Du don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick Du up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy Zeigen up at your doorstep, then drop Du off after the datum for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why Du can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where Du plan to have abendessen oder the bowling alley where Du intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps Du avoid an awkward drive Home if the datum goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a abendessen and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean abendessen and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities Du can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. Du can even bring some mutual Friends along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. wickeln, wickeln sie up the Tag (or night) at a quiet coffee Shop so Du can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much Mehr than decoration for the abendessen tabelle are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out Mehr than just, "Anywhere Du want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do Du want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant Du Liebe oder an activity Du find interesting. Your datum will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect Du Mehr for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so Du won't seem too eager oder mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for Du to bring yourself down oder tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and Du know it. A simple "Thank you" will Zeigen that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice Du look in your dress oder how much pretty Du are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your datum to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot sitz too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know Du that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him Home to your family. It also helps Du avoid all the awkward Fragen when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure Du stay true to who Du are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know Du want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 Minuten is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a Halloween party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the datum texting, tweeting, oder Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your datum and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much Du misses your ex oder how cute oder handsome your classmate oder neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him Fragen and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if Du call oder text a few days after the datum to thank him and say Du had fun, but don't harass him the Weiter week oder panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If Du realize you're not as interested in him as Du thought, politely let him know when he asks Du out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.
