my husband slept with my used to be best friend i forgave him so i sagte its been over a Jahr how can i make myself get over it its tearing me down i need some Guter Rat note we werent married at the time

True, full blown forgiveness means letting go, "forgive and forget". Easy words to say, but as humans our minds tend to hold on. Your married him. That alone says Du Liebe him. Trust is a huge part of love. Liebe can not survive without it. I glad/sad that your ex BFF is your ex now. What she did is BAD. But I'm also sad that Du Lost your BFF. I would not ever trust her again. I suggest Du leave her alone. "Vengeance is mine" saith the Lord. Give your pain to God, He will take care of it His way. TRUST in Him. Really, give it to God, He is your God and your friend. I hope all goes well for Du my dear ♥

that is really messed up Du should talk 2 her about it and settle it out