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Ok weird Frage but I want a serious answer please?

Ok I have a chronic fear of having sex. I can watch it make jokes about it but when I think of having it (of course I never done it i'm way too young) . I enter panic mode. I wanna seriously know how much dose it hurt when a girl "dose it" for the first time? And how much do they bleed? (I have a slight fear of blood so HURRAY FOR ME BEING A GIRL PERIODS AN ALL WOOPTY FUCKING DOO) ...ok that was unnecessary but yea..How much dos it hurt an how much blood?
 SeeUV3 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
It is a pretty natural fear.
It isn't a terrible amount of blood but not a pin prick either. It depends on your hymen, Did Du know there are about 7 different types? I didn't until just this year! The Mehr enclosed and thicker the tissue the Mehr Du would bleed and probably the Mehr Du would hurt. I also know this from experience. It wasn't so bad when Du are concentrating on other things, Du can breathe through the pain and it will subside after a bit. Du are sore but wears off after a while. If Du are occupied it helps if Du are trying to focus on pleasure. Pain will pass.

It hurt.... but then Du quickly heal.
The body is remarkable really.

I was scared to death my first time & much too young.
I was with someone my own age, (my bf at the time), and we were both virgins. I thought sex was great actually... but I seriously advise being better able to deal with and being older than me. I also flooded shortly after my promiscuity began at my boyfriends after sex. His mother was a nurse but I was -again- scared to death. I am not sure if I realized that it was different than blood from veins... butstill FREAKED me out and I had never seen that much blood.

I am sorry if anyone is queasy oder grossed out. I won't get graphic, I know it's gross, but I did stain my polished wood bett frame at the time of my first.

That Sekunde deal, being so young, I was quiet, serious, embarrassed, stuck at my bf's house and he kinda made fun of me~ not to mean, but we were young and he was trying to ease my fear and tention. Maturity helps in knowing what to do in situations "maybe" ???

I have gotten the impression from some other posts here and there that Du may be experimental oder bi and I think that when the time comes - male oder female, you'll have resources before, during, oder after that will help Du be & feel Mehr at ease (if Du pick the right person!)

It's okay to be scared.... even a lil phobic at this point, it's natural... just remember that sex and Liebe are natural things too. I bet it all works out, first oder Weiter ;) Just let things happen naturally (& remember to use protection male oder a female!!)
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I hope that helped & comforted that in the end I believe you'll find Du are okay & it will be okay. (protection-always)
Sinna_Hime_chan posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Thanks a lot it eased my fear slightly :)
SeeUV3 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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an yea im bi XD
SeeUV3 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Cool, glad to help :)
Sinna_Hime_chan posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
Deans_Girl said:
It depends on the girl, the boy, the age, the timing...there is so much to take into account. For instance I was 16, it hurt a little bit but there was not a drop of blood. My boyfriend knew I nervous of the pain and made sure I was 'excited' and as ready as possible. We took it slow and for the first time there really wasnt a whole lot going on.

So my opinion, don't be nervous. Be with someone Du trust to respect your body physically, so the will take there time and be gentle. And also someone Du trust emotionally, if Du trust them not to hurt Du emotionally (break your heart) your body will be Mehr willing to accept. Many girls suffer their first time because they are so nervous and they tense up too much.

So be with someone who cares about Du (and Du care about them), relax, and take your time. Make sure Du can take your time, the first time should not be rushed, it should be eased into. If the guy goes to fast, thats when it will hurt more. A girl needs time to adjust to the new feeling and quite blatantly the large thing inside.

Another tip, is to use lube. Woman will lubricate themselves naturally, however, with first time nerves oder lack of forplay oder arousal, lube makes it much easier.

Hope that all helped, feel free to message me if Du want to know more

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Thank :)
SeeUV3 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Right. Mine was fast, and from the sound of SeeUV3 we both have/had a hymen andone that there is maybe Mehr there~ It was fast, he was large, I was nervous somewhat, and I have not ever used lube. factors -plus the young age and stuff that all made for a first that was less than ideal. Everyone is different & thank Du for sharing YOUR story because that it very helpful (esp about the lube too).
Sinna_Hime_chan posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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AND about a carefing relationship of trust and going slow- that was the BEST part besides helpful things to consider of factors in there :) Always factors to factor in!
Sinna_Hime_chan posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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*caring (I hate my typos)
Sinna_Hime_chan posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
eliana_baby said:
Don't have sex till Du are ready, don't let anyone pressure into doing it and don't just do it because all your Friends are. I think it differs for everyone; I read the other answer and saw that she had bleed a lot? where as my first time was this year; I'm 17 and I had sex with my (virgin) boyfriend. I didn't bleed a lot at all. It was the tiniest amount of blood. It only hurt because I wasn't 'wet' enough, so it felt like a dry rubbing sensation (not a good sensation) but that changed quickly when I got Mehr wet; it felt so pleasurable, even though I was so scared and didn't know what I was doing it felt right because it was with the one person in the world I loved most. It also depends on if Du use tampons when Du are on your period because that can wear down the vaginal tissue which cause the bleeding and pain. But in the end its different for every girls, because different people are ready at different times. I just depends on what Du feel and if Du think its the right time for Du :)
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