Du know when Du look at them and get weak in the legs and that Du can't breath when they smile at Du oder (sorry for saying a twilight line) it's no longer gravitey holding Du to earth it's them. Du think about him/her all the time and you'll know.
Du don't know, really. Du just have to trust yourself.
I don't think it's about shortness of breath oder weak knees oder anything. I think it's about understanding and the willingness to put up with their flaws, no matter how severe. If you're hoping for the person to change in one way oder another, then it's probably not the right person.