For those who came out: How did it go?

Did it turn out okay? Horrible? Did they already suspect? Do they even care? Did anyone bat an eye? Was it a Drama-Llama moment? Share if Du dare.

oder if Du haven't come out, do Du plan to?
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NCISLuverjk93 said:
It went much better than I expected. I was so nervous, mostly about telling my mom, that I was already in a relationship with another girl. I honestly thought she'd disown me. And that I'd lose my family, and also my best friend.

I told my best friend first, and she sagte that she was of course still my bestie, she still loved me, and that it changed nothing. And that she was so happy for me, that I had finally found the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

Then I told my sister and nephew, who were shocked, but took it well. Made a few jokes but that only showed how understanding they were.

And finally, months later, I told my mom. I kept planning to do it, then when the time came I chickened out, thinking it wasn't the right moment. So one day, I was at her house waiting for my bestie to pick me up, and I told her I had something important to tell her and that I didn't know how she'd take it. She kinda laughed and jokingly accused me of being pregnant. I laughed but was so close to tears, and then I kind of just blurted it. Personally, my sexuality is.. complicated. I have this whole story, but I won't bore Du with it.. my point being I couldn't just say "I'm a lesbian" oder even that I'm bi, and I just told her that the friend I had been visiting every few months {Out of state, we're in an LDR} is not just a friend, but my girlfriend. And I was crying Von that point. I couldn't help it. Then she just sagte "Oh honey, that's it? I already knew. I could tell." And I just nearly died. Out of relief and shock. She came over and hugged me while I tried to stop crying, and sagte she couldn't believe I was so afraid to tell her. And that she would Liebe all of her children no matter what. Whether they're white, black, straight, gay, etc. She's not all 'Yay gay people', but she's there for me and loves me, that's all I could ask for. A little after that my girlfriend and I made our relationship 'Facebook official'. A few Kommentare were made, just people being shocked, nothing bad.

So that's my story of 'coming out'. I know for a lot of people it's far different than that, not a happy ending kind of story. And I am just so lucky and grateful to have such amazing Friends and family. And I wish no one had to go through their parents oder family oder Friends not accepting them because they aren't straight and 'normal'. It's sad, but mostly sickening. But what's worse is when Du let people like that force Du to keep it hidden. Keep your true sexuality hidden. Because if Du do that, trust me, you'll never be happy. When I was keeping my relationship a secret it felt.. horrible. I hated lying and having to sneak around just because I was afraid of being judged. And due to the fact I could lose people I loved dearly. But Du know, if they can't accept Du for who Du are, they aren't worth it.
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I'm glad it turned out well for Du :)
NightFrog posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Thank you. :) As am I. Beyond glad. If I may ask, were Du just curious for people's stories, oder are Du planning on coming out yourself and wanted to know what Du may experience..?
NCISLuverjk93 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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I'm mostly curious, but I was also thinking of coming out to my mom, and maybe my dad if I felt the need to.
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MissMichele said:
I told my grandmother first. She sagte she always kinda knew. Then she told my mom. My mom wasn't mad, just thought I should make sure that I'm bi. I told her I'm sure, but she doesn't believe me. Then I told my best friend. She sagte it didn't matter, that she'd always be my friend. Which made me happy. I told her how I felt about her. She's still my friend. I haven' t told anyone else because I'm afraid to. Oh well. That's my story.
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Heroine999 said:
I first came out to my sister.My sister kinda already knew that I was lesbian.The coming out to my sister wasn't horrible because see has a friend that is a lesbian.For my mom it was bad."You're to young to make that choice",said my mom over the phone.My uncle is gay yet she doesn't expect me and is ignorant of sexuality.To this Tag I'm still heartbroken to what my mother sagte to me but i ignore the feeling and go on with my life.Anyway,I haven't told anyone else.I want to tell my dad.He said" anything Du want to tell me".My answer is always no but one Tag it will be yes.For my nana,I do want to tell her I'm lesbian.She is always so loving but she has a son that is gay and I some how don't want her to know that she has a granddaughter that is gay too.For school,I haven't told any of my friends.There is a possibility that they are homophobic.There is also a possibility that i'll be bullied because of my my sexuality.I saw only one lesbian in my school that was open about her sexuality and I wonder how many LGBTs are there in my school?
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