Unlike love, Fanpop is not a battlefield. Du don't have to gear up and amass an army to command in a war against everyone who's ever wronged you. I recognize that things get sagte on this site Von several different people that are hurtful, cruel, insensitive and just plain troll-ish. Depending on your personality, Du might get a little hot-headed if someone says these things to Du oder your friends. But there are civil ways of dealing with these situations that don't involve flamethrowers and mustard gas. Conflicts can be resolved peaceably, oder at least can be curtailed before they escalate into a full-blown flame war.
1) Private Messaging. Frankly, if there are nasty words going back and forth in private, that's absolutely none of my business. If Du want to go all "Viva La Resistance!" and fight feuer with fire, be my guest. But please, keep the rest of us out of it. If someone insults Du oder is rude to you, rather than making a spectacle, send them a message about it. That way Du can deal with the problem Von yelling oder krocketspiel, krokett, krocket for all I care and Du don't drag other (often innocent) users into the fray. This is the best and most ideal way to deal with any tense situation. It keeps your private conflict out of the limelight, and Fanpop drama free.
2) "I cannot teach Du violence, as I do not myself believe in it. I can only teach Du not to bow your heads before any one even at the cost of your life." If Du can't solve this privately, oder the person will not relent even after Du have asked them to stop, this step may help. Gandhi has become the poster-child for pacifism. Sure, he had his faults, but focusing on his teachings, keep his philosophy in mind. Du don't have to stand there and take it, but if someone is obviously saying things for the sole purpose of getting a rise out of you, recognize this. "Be the bigger person" and ignore them oder quietly reply to them. Remember the concept of non-violent resistance? It works with words, too. Also remember, Gandhi was dealing with a lot Mehr crap than Du are on a little website, and he still managed to be peaceable. So Du have no excuse, really.
3) Perspective. If this is a serious conflict between someone who believes Du have done him/her wrong, then try and find out why. Step outside of your body and try and see things from a different point of view. Try to figure out where your opponent is coming from, what s/he is feeling, and why. It might help Du in step four.
4) Analyze the problem. If there's serious conflict, there's a problem that needs to be addressed. Why is this user attacking you? Is it out of defense, malice, prejudice, oder misunderstanding? The cause of the problem dictates how it should be dealt with. If Du try and solve the problem rather than hurling insults at everyone who disagrees with you, Du might actually accomplish something rather than talk in circles.
5) Apologize. Don't be afraid to give oder accept apologies. If someone offers Du one as a peace offering, don't snub it. If Du give one and it is snubbed, don't take it back and start yelling again. If Du feel that Du are at an impasse in your argument, try and offer a compromise. "I'm sorry I sagte this, but it was only because Du did this." It may cause the other person (assuming that s/he is rational) to reply, "You're right, I'm sorry I did that, but it was having a bad day." And viola, Du have it all sorted out.
It really isn't hard to deal with conflict rationally and maturely. If Du are dealing with an irrational, immature user, then feel free to Berichten him/her, but don't get vindictive about it. It's times like these where step 2 is the most useful.
Hopefully, this will help in future conflicts. Unfortunately, I doubt it. I kind of have this feeling that I'm preaching to the choir.
1) Private Messaging. Frankly, if there are nasty words going back and forth in private, that's absolutely none of my business. If Du want to go all "Viva La Resistance!" and fight feuer with fire, be my guest. But please, keep the rest of us out of it. If someone insults Du oder is rude to you, rather than making a spectacle, send them a message about it. That way Du can deal with the problem Von yelling oder krocketspiel, krokett, krocket for all I care and Du don't drag other (often innocent) users into the fray. This is the best and most ideal way to deal with any tense situation. It keeps your private conflict out of the limelight, and Fanpop drama free.
2) "I cannot teach Du violence, as I do not myself believe in it. I can only teach Du not to bow your heads before any one even at the cost of your life." If Du can't solve this privately, oder the person will not relent even after Du have asked them to stop, this step may help. Gandhi has become the poster-child for pacifism. Sure, he had his faults, but focusing on his teachings, keep his philosophy in mind. Du don't have to stand there and take it, but if someone is obviously saying things for the sole purpose of getting a rise out of you, recognize this. "Be the bigger person" and ignore them oder quietly reply to them. Remember the concept of non-violent resistance? It works with words, too. Also remember, Gandhi was dealing with a lot Mehr crap than Du are on a little website, and he still managed to be peaceable. So Du have no excuse, really.
3) Perspective. If this is a serious conflict between someone who believes Du have done him/her wrong, then try and find out why. Step outside of your body and try and see things from a different point of view. Try to figure out where your opponent is coming from, what s/he is feeling, and why. It might help Du in step four.
4) Analyze the problem. If there's serious conflict, there's a problem that needs to be addressed. Why is this user attacking you? Is it out of defense, malice, prejudice, oder misunderstanding? The cause of the problem dictates how it should be dealt with. If Du try and solve the problem rather than hurling insults at everyone who disagrees with you, Du might actually accomplish something rather than talk in circles.
5) Apologize. Don't be afraid to give oder accept apologies. If someone offers Du one as a peace offering, don't snub it. If Du give one and it is snubbed, don't take it back and start yelling again. If Du feel that Du are at an impasse in your argument, try and offer a compromise. "I'm sorry I sagte this, but it was only because Du did this." It may cause the other person (assuming that s/he is rational) to reply, "You're right, I'm sorry I did that, but it was having a bad day." And viola, Du have it all sorted out.
It really isn't hard to deal with conflict rationally and maturely. If Du are dealing with an irrational, immature user, then feel free to Berichten him/her, but don't get vindictive about it. It's times like these where step 2 is the most useful.
Hopefully, this will help in future conflicts. Unfortunately, I doubt it. I kind of have this feeling that I'm preaching to the choir.
