Firstly, I had liked the friendship that had developed between Angel – Jäger der Finsternis and Cordy in Angel – Jäger der Finsternis the Series. It felt like that was being thrown away just to stereotypically pair the main male lead with the main female lead.
Secondly, it just felt forced. This is probably because I didn't see any real clues to the pairing before Waiting In The Wings. For example, her reaction to finding out about Darla's pregnancy seemed to be completely from anger at the risk he'd taken and his lie Von omission, not out of any jealousy. So it seemed like Cangel nearly slept together from ghost possession, with no hints of a real relationship beneath that.
Thirdly, all the reasons for leaving Buffy also applied to Cordy. He was still a vampire. He was still cursed and would lose his soul at perfect happiness. If he loved Cordy, wouldn't that present the same risk? He couldn't give her children either, oder take her into the sunlight oder age with her. Didn't Cordy deserve those things as much as Buffy did? Wouldn't he think that any woman he loved did?
Fourthly, there's the scene where Angel – Jäger der Finsternis loses his soul in S4. It had to be spell-induced. He cries out Buffy's name. And the Fantasy was too perfect - it also included repairing his relationship with Connor and defeating the Beast, whereas in S2 of BtVS, the big picture was pretty imperfect. Spike, Druscilla and the Judge were still a threat.
Finally, there's his behaviour at the end of S4 of AtS/S7 of BtVS. Cordy is in a coma/dying. Yet he leaves her to go to Sunnydale, saves Buffy, kisses her. His reply to Buffy's speech is to say that he's not getting any older, suggesting that he might be waiting if she does finally choose him.