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my mom is over protected & wont let me go 2 the mall Von myself which all of my Friends r doing,have a facebook,etc.since that my Friends think i cant do anything like tat & think i have no freedom so they treat me like that. wat should i do

 1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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BabyBlud said:
First off, Du must think as to why your mother is over-protective. Did something happen to Du when Du were younger, did something happen to her. Has she an anxiety/depressive problem. All could be factors and Du must act accordingly to them.

However if none of the above counts for anything, i suggest sitting your mother down and explaining that Du are a teenager now (i looked on your Profil just to be sure) and that it is normal for girls your age to go out and have fun with your friends.
Do Du have a mobile phone? If not suggest Du get a really cheap one (expensive ones are a waste of money in my eyes) and promise to call her if anything goes wrong oder to update on where you're going and who is turning up/leaving the group.
Suggest splitting the amount of money in your purse. Half to stay in your geldbörse and half to put down your bra. Sounds strange i know, but many young ladies get mugged, their bags and purses snatched from their hands. If all your money is in your purse, how will Du get Home oder have money to call from a phone box for help? if Du keep some among your underwear, Du should always make sure Du have enough travel fare plus some for a phone call just to make sure.
Suggest not going out on your own. Ask a friend to pick Du up and drop Du off so your mother knows Du won't be going out walking on your own, it's a lot safer in groups.
And also agree on a curfew, but both have to lienant. Du must agree to come Home when she says on time, but also she must agree to give Du a little lee-way into what time Du should come home. There is no point in your mother saying Du must be back for, say..6pm if your Friends are allowed to stay until 10. How about 9pm instead? Du call her when you're on your way so she knows you're okay.
Also never, ever be late. If Du are late just once, your mother may not allow Du to go out again for the pure reason that she could have panicked when Du didn't turn up at the correct time. Trust is everything, as soon as your build that trust with your mother, she will soon relax.

but just sit her down, tell her how you're feeling and say it's important for your emotional and social well-being that Du act like a 'normal' teenager. See how that goes :)
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yeah well idk my moms just always been like that...she says she sometimes has depression problems and she gets really stressed out....i mean i help her and try 2 do everything i can.....my mom wont let me have a cell phone, but she lets me take my dads extra cell phone so that works, if we went 2 the mall we would go at like 12 to like 5 oder around that time and she would drop us off oder my Friends mom who s really close 2 her.....trust me id would never ever be late............i mean my mom says im unresponsible and the reason i really wanna go to the mall is that i want some responsibility so my mom can trut me Mehr and i absolutly Liebe the mall!!!! my mom takes me 2 the mall maybe 3 times a Jahr cause she hates the mall so im not aloud 2 go a lot!!! the thing is she never trusts me and if i put the money in my bra she would roll her eyes and say thats unacceptable oder something.........just 2 say this i wont get stolen oder anything cause ive taken self defense classes many times
1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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yesterday i went 2 the mall with my sis and my 2 Friends but i was @ my one Friends house and her mom was like let me call my mom 2 let me see if i can go and my mom sagte yes so u never no..maybe she'll let me go Mehr often
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sehdt said:
Firstly it does depend on your age I was not allowed anywhere on my own until I was 15. Even now at 36 as I live at Home I let mum and dad know where I am going. Secondly there may be reasons why she is over protective and I suggest Du sit down and find out why and explain what your Friends think about it. Also so once Du know why tell your Friends explain the reasons and may be they will understand more. I do know the feeling my mum was always a bit like that and my Friends never understood. Hope this helps.
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well thanks 4 answering but she wont tell me the reasons!!! i mean i told her like im not gonna get made i just really wanna no.......she sagte she would allow 2 drop me off at the Filme but not at the mall?? the same thing could happen at the mall as at the Filme theater!! i mean whats the difference?? i just really wanna go 2 the mall cause i Liebe the mall and i dont get 2 go a lot of i always feel left out when they invite people oder something....just plz help!!!
1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Oh dear, Parents can be annoying I fear your only course of action is to wait till Du are an adult and then she wont be able to say anything sorry to be the bringer of bad news. I do know how it feels I didnt get my own tv till I was 19 which was so annoying. Sorry I can not be Mehr helpful.
sehdt posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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yesterday i went 2 the mall with my sis and my 2 Friends but i was @ my one Friends house and her mom was like let me call my mom 2 let me see if i can go and my mom sagte yes so we went alone 2 the mall!!! yay! so u never no..maybe she'll let me go Mehr often
1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Brilliant lets hope so
sehdt posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
GoldnSnitch_96 said:
I am in the same situation as you. Fml. It really does suck and they have too much leverage over us for us to do jack shit. Not much I can think of sadly ): ur not the only one who cant do jack SHIT
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ohh yay someone who goes through the same as me!!! i hate it but sometimes she lets me go in one store with my sis and i go in another but when were done we have 2 go back 2 her and we cant leave the store (i guess im happy if she lets me do that with every story)
1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Try to point out to her that there are risks with everything, and that she shouldnt cotton wickeln, wickeln sie you. The only way u will learn is if Du get out there and go and experience life.
GoldnSnitch_96 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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yesterday i went 2 the mall with my sis and my 2 Friends but i was @ my one Friends house and her mom was like let me call my mom 2 let me see if i can go and my mom sagte yes so we went alone 2 the mall!!! yay! so u never no..maybe she'll let me go Mehr often
1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
Cherry9090 said:
First off... Be lucky u have a mom that's protective and carding she's ur mother and wants to keep u safe, sicher there's nothing wrong with that she's has that right and she should stick to it conceder ur self lucky alot of mothers dint give a damn what their do and their wind up drinking oder on drugs oder pregnant oder even dead before they hit 13 im only 17and I wish my mom was alive to be protective so stop winning and know she's doing this bc she loves u
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my mom doesnt do drugs doesnt smoke doesnt drink cant have any Mehr babies.....shes in her 50's but she thinks me and my sis r not responsible and dont belong going Von our selves 2 the mall.....shes worried we might get mugged,raped,or kidnapped...........who knows.....that can happen anywhere
1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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Things happen bad things this world is not a child's world trust me be greatful u have a mom and be greatful she loves u
Cherry9090 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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yesterday i went 2 the mall with my sis and my 2 Friends but i was @ my one Friends house and her mom was like let me call my mom 2 let me see if i can go and my mom sagte yes so we went alone 2 the mall!!! yay! so u never no..maybe she'll let me go Mehr often
1JUSTIN-BIEBER posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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That's good :) just be lucky u have one that loves u ok
Cherry9090 posted Vor mehr als einem Jahr
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