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BabyBlud said:
First off, Du must think as to why your mother is over-protective. Did something happen to Du when Du were younger, did something happen to her. Has she an anxiety/depressive problem. All could be factors and Du must act accordingly to them. However if none of the above counts for anything, i suggest sitting your mother down and explaining that Du are a teenager now (i looked on your Profil just to be sure) and that it is normal for girls your age to go out and have fun with your friends. Do Du have a mobile phone? If not suggest Du get a really cheap one (expensive ones are a waste of money in my eyes) and promise to call her if anything goes wrong oder to update on where you're going and who is turning up/leaving the group. Suggest splitting the amount of money in your purse. Half to stay in your geldbörse and half to put down your bra. Sounds strange i know, but many young ladies get mugged, their bags and purses snatched from their hands. If all your money is in your purse, how will Du get Home oder have money to call from a phone box for help? if Du keep some among your underwear, Du should always make sure Du have enough travel fare plus some for a phone call just to make sure. Suggest not going out on your own. Ask a friend to pick Du up and drop Du off so your mother knows Du won't be going out walking on your own, it's a lot safer in groups. And also agree on a curfew, but both have to lienant. Du must agree to come Home when she says on time, but also she must agree to give Du a little lee-way into what time Du should come home. There is no point in your mother saying Du must be back for, say..6pm if your Friends are allowed to stay until 10. How about 9pm instead? Du call her when you're on your way so she knows you're okay. Also never, ever be late. If Du are late just once, your mother may not allow Du to go out again for the pure reason that she could have panicked when Du didn't turn up at the correct time. Trust is everything, as soon as your build that trust with your mother, she will soon relax. but just sit her down, tell her how you're feeling and say it's important for your emotional and social well-being that Du act like a 'normal' teenager. See how that goes :)
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